Read How to Fall in Love with Anyone: A Memoir in Essays Online Free - An insightful, charming, and absolutely fascinating memoir from the author of the popular New York Times essay, “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This,” (one of the top five most popular New York Times pieces of 2015) explores the romantic myths we create and explains how they limit our ability to achieve and sustain intimacy.
What really makes love last? Does love ever work the way we say it does in movies and books and Facebook posts? Or does obsessing over those love stories hurt our real-life relationships? When her parents divorced after a twenty-eight year marriage and her own ten-year relationship ended, those were the questions that Mandy Len Catron wanted to answer.
In a series of candid, vulnerable, and wise essays that takes a closer look at what it means to love someone, be loved, and how we present our love to the world, Catron deconstructs her own personal canon of love stories. She delves all the way back to 1944, when her grandparents first met in a coal mining town in Appalachia, to her own dating life as a professor in Vancouver, drawing insights from her fascinating research into the universal psychology, biology, history, and literature of love. She uses biologists’ research into dopamine triggers to ask whether the need to love is an innate human drive. She uses literary theory to show why we prefer certain kinds of love stories. She urges us to question the unwritten scripts we follow in relationships and looks into where those scripts come from in the first place. And she tells the story of how she decided to test a psychology experiment that she’d read about—where the goal was to create intimacy between strangers using a list of thirty-six questions—and ended up in the surreal situation of having millions of people following her brand-new relationship.
In How to Fall in Love with Anyone Catron flips the script on love and offers a deeply personal, and universal, investigation.
|Title||:||How to Fall in Love with Anyone: A Memoir in Essays|
|Number of Pages||:||256 pages|
July 06, 2017
I let the title for this collection of essays fool me for a second there, thinking it would be some self-help junk about the magic of love and all its promises. It's far from it, actually.
“I hated this way of talking about love, but I caught myself doing it, too. The right choice, the right perso...
May 23, 2017
This review is also published here: http://theslattern.com/2017/05/23/hea...
Let’s just make this clear up-front – this is NOT a self-help or non-fiction book, it is a memoir. I’ve seen a couple of reviews that express disappointment that this wasn’t a list of helpful tips to find love. Those boo...
July 06, 2017
A really enjoyable read. I love thinking and reading about love (I've previously enjoyed On Love and The Course of Love, Alain de Botton's offerings on the topic), so this was a really thought provoking one for me. Not too scientific nor light-hearted, and I enjoyed the author's examples and writ...
June 23, 2017
In love, we fall.
That’s how I fell in love with him in college, when we slept belly to back, my nose tucked against his neck, when the daytime was just a placeholder for the night.
As far as I could tell, rightness and wrongness were only ever apparent in retrospect.
If I believed love w...
July 11, 2017
I had this book for a week and recommended it to more than 10 people before I had even finished it, which I think should be enough to convince you to add it to your To-Read list immediately! I knew about Mandy Len Catron from her 2015 viral piece in the "Modern Love" section of The New York Times...
March 20, 2017
Let's be clear. The author doesn't, in fact, tell you how to fall in love with anyone. Remember: it's a memoir. Catron's voice quickly won me over, and I entered into her story much as I would into that of a friend, stopping occasionally as I read to nod my head or question her choices. For me, t...
June 22, 2017
Ugh. I am so on the fence about this book. It falls into the same category for me as "Eat, Pray, Love" and "Wild". While I had my own issues with those two books (really, who can afford to disappear for an extended period of time to get their shit together?), this one was a bit different.
September 29, 2017
Not what I was expecting having read the author's Modern Love piece. Not terrible but not what I was expecting and author spends too much time pushing against her own article in a strange almost defensive way. Stories about her parents and relationship with her long term boyfriend most interestin...
April 24, 2017
Enjoyed author being so honest about her relationships and her struggle with love. Fun book
Thanks to Netgalley and author for letting me read this book. While I received this book for free, it had no bearing on the rating I gave it.
October 01, 2017
Do I Love You?
As a teenager, I was obsessed with defining love. How do you know when you’re in love? What are the different types, and how do you distinguish “real” love from infatuation or friendship? Is love real at all, or just a biochemical reaction? To what degree have books and movies creat...